I'm not "manly" enough for this girl?

So there's this girl I like, yeah I've spent time with her and stuff, in fact just me and her one time at a cafe, we had a lovely chat 'cause we both didn't have lessons in college that time. Anyway, so I'm close with 2 of her friends, and they know I like her, and they've been trying as casually as possible to get her opinion of me without making it obvious. The friend couldn't really explain to me properly (not good in English, no offence intended), she was trying to say that the girl said like I'm not manly enough? I can't protect her? I'm too sensitive? along those lines... I admit, I used to be shy, and I've been improving a lot, but the friend even said how he chose this guy among everyone, cause the friend asked her who she would prefer, and that other guy was even less sociable/more quiet than me. And there was this time I was actually with the girl and her friend and that exact same guy. Her other friend then says how i am "not her cup of tea". the friends also asked her about other guys, and same response to even someone different from me, someone who is funnier and stuff. We talked about "ideal partners", and she mentioned how she wanted someone taller than her, someone smarter, someone with good teeth/smile, someone sensible and equally silly, someone funny, someone oriental (chinese/korean, etc.) I AM ALL THOSE! maybe i could improve being more funny and less sensible, but really, and I am NOT ugly, girls find me attractive, but I'm not really that alpha male. I always dress well, and I am very kind <-- perhaps thats what they meant? I think i can be too nice and always help people out and stuff, dont get me wrong though, im not gullible, i dont let people take advantage of me. I don't know if she just likes me as a friend, but al the times we've hanged out and talked, she seems she likes me, hugs me tightly, always eye contact, notices me out of a crowd, smiles always, doesnt talk, unless i start convo first and THEN she starts talking a lot, she even says stuff like "oh i came today to see you" "oh im so happy to see you". Should I still make an attempt to ask her out casually? Valentines is coming. I was thinking, would she be that picky to even reject my offer that I just wanna go see some movie with her. I don't want it to become awkward if she says no, i would still love her to be a good friend of mine. So please, is there something I don't understand myself? Do i need to change anything? Maybe she's just hiding her feelings? Do I actually have a chance? SORRY FOR BEING TOO MUCH, thanks for reading and your opinion in advance.